The Fathers We Don't See

Ask someone to picture a homeless family. Most people will imagine a mother holding a child's hand.

It's the image we see in news stories, fundraising appeals, and public conversations. Over time, it has become our collective picture of family homelessness.

But there is another family we don't talk about nearly as often: a father and his children.

According to the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development's (HUD), more than 186,000 people in families with children were experiencing homelessness on a single night in 2023. Keep in mind that those point-in-time counts reflect numbers of homeless people that can be seen. There are many more unseen.

Research suggests that about 84% of homeless families are headed by single women, which implies that about 16% are headed by men. That means thousands of children across America are experiencing homelessness while being raised by a custodial father. 

Most people are surprised to learn that.

Part of the reason may be that fathers raising children alone simply do not fit our mental picture of who experiences homelessness. We tend to assume that dads are the ones providing stability. The father who has lost housing while still caring for his children is a story that often remains hidden in plain sight.

And hidden is exactly how many of these families live.

 A father with children cannot simply enter an adult shelter and leave his children somewhere else. He remains responsible for them every hour of every day. When housing is lost, many fathers do what any parent would do: they search desperately for a way to keep the family together.

Sometimes that means staying with relatives.

Sometimes it means rotating between friends' homes.

Sometimes it means spending money meant for groceries on another week in a motel room.

Sometimes it means sleeping in a vehicle and hoping no one notices.

Many families experiencing homelessness never sleep on a sidewalk or in a tent. Housing experts often refer to this as hidden homelessness—families moving from one temporary arrangement to another, trying to stay safe while avoiding the complete collapse of stability.

For parents, every decision becomes a calculation.

Do I pay for the motel room or repair the car?

Can we stay here one more week?

What happens when this option runs out?

The broader forces driving these situations are well known. Across the country, affordable housing remains out of reach for millions of families. National housing advocates estimate there are only about 37 affordable and available rental homes for every 100 extremely low-income renter households. For families already living paycheck to paycheck, a job loss, illness, divorce, unexpected expense, or family crisis can quickly trigger a housing emergency.

Those pressures do not discriminate between mothers and fathers.

Neither does homelessness.

But because fathers experiencing homelessness are often less visible in public conversations, many people are unaware of the unique challenges they face.

That is one reason places like the Salvation Army's Shafer Family Center matter.

Located in Knoxville, the Shafer Family Center provides emergency shelter for families experiencing homelessness, including families with fathers. It is currently the only shelter in the area where fathers can remain with their children while working toward stable housing and long-term independence.

At first glance, that may seem like a small distinction.

In reality, it can mean everything.

It means a father doesn't have to choose between keeping his family together and finding a safe place to stay. It means children can remain with the parent caring for them. It means a family facing one of the most difficult moments of their lives can begin rebuilding stability together rather than apart.

Behind statistics are real people. Sometimes the families we don't see are the ones who most need to be seen.

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